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Ethics & Religion
July 15, 2009
Why Are Some People Gay?
By Mike McManus
This week The Episcopal Church voted to allow all baptized persons access to
"any ordained ministry" such as being a priest or bishop. The National
Educational Association, a teacher's union, also voted to endorse "same-sex
I just read Michael Reagan's book, "Twice Adopted," which reports the
terrifying evidence of why many become homosexual. The adopted son of Ronald
Reagan and Academy Award winner Jane Wyman - lived through their divorce and
found himself in a boarding school at age five, crying himself to sleep.
Michael wondered why some kids in his school went home every night, while he did
not. "What's wrong with me?" he wondered. "Why don't my parents like me."
His mother was making two or three movies a year, like his dad, who was also
President of the Screen Actors Guild. They had little time for him, though each
saw him every other weekend.
Michael was so unhappy his mother brought him home at age 7, enrolled him
in a day school, and in an after-school day camp program, which he thought "was
great. I'd go to school, finish the afternoon at camp, then come home for dinner
with Mom, living my life like a normal kid."
"I couldn't have been more wrong. The worst thing that could possibly
happen to a child was about to happen to me." Don Havlik, his camp director,
paid excessive attention to the boy.
One day he asked, "Mike, you want to do something to make me feel good?"
He unzipped his pants…It was horrifying. Reagan recalled, "That first sex act
solidifies the molester's ownership of you. Don wanted to touch me, or me to
touch him every time we went someplace."
"Molesters make you feel good about yourself for a while, but once the
molestation takes place, they own your soul. You don't know how to get away from
it. You never think the molester did something wrong. You think you did
Don took a picture of him nude, and showed it to him, asking: "Wouldn't
your mom like to have a copy of that picture?" Until that moment, Michael
thought that Don was his friend, even like a father. But when he saw that
picture and heard his implied threat of showing it to his mother, he "felt
violated. I felt raped…My self-esteem, which had been low before, hit rock
"I blamed God and hated him for the fix I was in. I was sure he had sent
Don Havlik into my life to molest me and shame me as a punishment for being born
illegitimate…I was angry with my birth mother for letting me be born
illegitimate, for causing me all this pain, and for sending me away. I also
blamed Mom for sending me to that day camp."
It was such a shameful experience, he could not tell anyone about it for
What was most horrifying about his secret is that he was afraid he would
be labeled. Though he had never heard the word "homosexual," at age 7, he knew
he had been touched by a man, which did not sound normal. Fortunately, Reagan
did become heterosexual and married happily.
Many studies estimate that 40 percent to two-thirds of homosexuals - are
victims of child molesters, according to Dr. Arthur Goldberg, President of PATH
(Positive Alternatives to Homosexuality.) He adds that even higher percentages
of lesbians were victims of child molestation.
I have never seen these stunning figures in the secular press before.
Fortunately, from one-third to two-thirds of gays can break free of that
lifestyle, reports Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, President of the National Association of
Research and Therapy of Homosexuality.
Reagan's book asserts that most molesters appear to be charming and are
typically people you and your child know and trust. Therefore, he warns parents
to take key steps:
1. Tell children that if anyone touches them inappropriately to tell
2. Never keep secrets from mommy and daddy. If someone wants them to
keep a secret, that person may be doing a bad thing. Molesters almost always
swear the child to secrecy.
3. Watch out for any adults or teenagers who pay an unusual amount of
attention to your child.
4. Play "What if" games with kids. "What if a grownup you know tickled
you a lot and you don't like it. What would you do? What if a grownup offers you
money if you take your clothes off?"
5. Look for evidence that your child may have been abused, such as
having sexual knowledge beyond their age, or money you did not give them. If
the child is withdrawn, destructive, angry, guilty or ashamed, or is obsessed
with protecting siblings, ask questions.
This issue goes far beyond same-sex marriage. Every step which
normalizes homosexuality will attract more people into this perverted lifestyle,
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