June 20, 2011
Ten Reasons to Oppose Same-Sex Marriage
By Mike McManus
The New York
Legislature is close to voting for same-sex marriage. When my home state of
Maryland considered legalizing “same-sex marriage,” as President of Marriage
Savers, I testified against it and wrote a letter to legislators detailing
ten reasons to oppose it, a bill that was defeated. I sent a similar letter
to 15 New York Senators individually making these points:
Gays are not interested in
marriage. Massachusetts was the
first state to adopt gay marriage in 2004. However, the state has
registered only 12,000 same-sex unions. According to the Centers for Disease
Control, 4% of men are gay and 1% of women are lesbian. Thus, of the state’s
3.3 million males, there are 132,000 gay men, plus 33,000 lesbians. Only
14% of the 165,000 have “married” and 86% chose not to do so. Clearly,
most are not interested in marriage.
Why should the definition of
marriage be changed when only a tenth of 2% of the population wants to force
that change? In all 30 states
that have added constitutional amendments limiting marriage to the union of
one man and one woman, traditional marriage has always been upheld by
referenda, even in California, which voted for Obama over McCain by 24%.
Children need a mother and
father. The healthiest children
are those reared by a married mother and father. “Marriage is the union of
a husband and wife for a reason: these are the only unions that can make new
life and connect children in love to their mom and dad,” says Maggie
Gallagher, President of National Organization for Marriage. Gay/lesbian
unions deprive a child of one gender.
Traditional marriage is exclusive; gay unions are not.
According to Dr. Brad Wilcox of the National Marriage Project, lifetime
infidelity dropped in the 2000s to 16% for males and 10% for females. By
contrast, according to the San Francisco Chronicle, the number of
male partners of a homosexual was four per month. Is that a healthy
environment in which to raise children? Some argue that gay marriage
would reduce promiscuity, but two-thirds report sex outside the marriage in
the first year.
States that passed same-sex marriage are rescinding them.
After Maine’s Legislature
voted for same-sex marriage in 2009, Maine voters repealed the law.
Subsequently, two dozen state legislators who voted for it were defeated in
Homosexual men are 4% of the population but account for half of all new
HIV infections and 85% of syphilis cases. According to the CDC, men having sex with men (MSM)
account for 48% of the one million people living with HIV, (532,000), 53% of
new HIV infections (28,700).
HIV infections are increasing only in gay men, while decreasing among
heterosexuals and drug users. MSM are the only risk group in the U.S. in which new HIV
infections have been increasing since the early 1990s.
Homosexual men are banned from donating blood due to the likelihood they
will transmit HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases.
A lifetime ban has been imposed by all collectors of blood on gay men to
protect America’s blood supply.
Gay sex is a choice, and one with taxpayer consequences.
testifying against same-sex marriage spent years in the gay lifestyle, but
changed to a heterosexual orientation and have been happily married for
years. If same-sex marriage is legalized, more people will be lured into
this unhealthy lifestyle. A 20-year-old gay has a 50% chance of becoming
HIV positive. Many gays will seek Medicaid to cover costs of deteriorating
health. It is not in the interest of taxpayers to induce more people into
this destructive, costly lifestyle.
Gay men live
20 years shorter lives than heterosexuals,
according to the only epidemiological study to date. A tenth of sexually
active teens are experimenting with same-sex unions, reports a New York City
study, published in the journal Pediatrics. Why encourage
more teens to experiment with this destructive life style?
In summary, unlike heterosexual marriage in
which fidelity is the norm for four out of five couples, promiscuity is the
norm for homosexuals, even those in committed relationships. Only a tenth
of gays marry if given the legal opportunity to do so. Most are not
interested in marrying.
aren’t interested, why force a change in the definition of marriage to
benefit a tenth of 2% of the population? It will only encourage more sexual
experimentation among young people with tragic consequences. They will live
20 years shorter lives.
to thrive, they need to grow up in homes with a married mother and father.
In his 1828 American Dictionary, Noah Webster defined marriage as the
“act of uniting a man and a woman for life,” because marriage “was
instituted …for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the
sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and
education of children.”