December
7, 2011
Column
#1,580
Why Gov.
O'Malley Is Wrong On Same-Sex Marriage
By Mike
McManus and Ruth M. Jacobs, M.D.
In his
1828 American Dictionary, Noah Webster defined marriage as the “act
of uniting a man and a woman for life,” because marriage “was instituted
…for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for
promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and education
of children.” For children to thrive, they need to grow up in homes with a
married mother and father.
Maryland
Gov. Martin O'Malley wants to change that long established meaning of
marriage by promoting an illusion that gender and even biological
relationships don't really matter. Yet the healthiest children are those
reared by a married mother and father. “Marriage is the union of a husband
and wife for a reason: these are the only unions that can make new life and
connect children in love to their mom and dad,” says Maggie Gallagher,
President of National Organization for Marriage.
Consider
the federal
Fatherhood.gov
advertising
campaign "Dad
is the highest rank of all,"
to realize the importance of
gender. Children from fatherless homes, according to federal statistics, are
"14 times more likely to commit rape, 32 times more likely to run away,
20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders, 5 times more likely to
commit suicide, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances and 20
times more likely to end up in prison."
Most
studies of same-sex parenting involve children of divorced lesbian mothers
who started out in a heterosexual household, thus providing little or no
real information about parenting when Dad is axed right out of family. The
American Pediatric Society reports, "There is a paucity of data on...
adolescents.... reared in lesbian households since birth."
With such startling lack of data, it is clear that
proponents of same-sex marriage have foolishly placed the "needs of adults"
above the needs of the child.
We have witnessed
similar problems before. The increase in divorce, which was also led by a
focus on the "needs of adults," has dealt a crushing blow to children.
Children of divorce live five years less than those from intact families.
Therefore, why not require couples with kids to take a course on the impact
of divorce on children before a divorce is filed, and ask parents to take
classes to improve their communication skills? Many marriages would be
saved, as a result.
Fatherhood.gov
states, "Fathers play a unique and irreplaceable role in their children's
lives." Yet the majority of same-sex partnerships raising children are
lesbian women. A lesbian relationship divides the family tree, breaks
biological ties and excludes Dad. Enforcing same-sex lesbian marriage gives
a female completely unrelated to a child GREATER legal rights than the
child's own father.
While
divorce may happen or a parent may die, Governor O'Malley and our elected
legislators shouldn't further "put the axe to the family tree," in the guise
of same-sex marriage.
Genderless
relationships lack the stability of traditional marriage. A study of
homosexual men found that the "duration of steady partnerships" was 1.5
years. In a lesbian parenting study of 78 children (the largest study to
date), sixty percent of the mothers had separated before the child's seventh
birthday. By contrast, 66 percent of all heterosexual first marriages last
ten years or longer, with 50 percent lasting twenty years or longer, reports
the National Center for Health Statistics.
Gay activists want
you to believe that homosexuality is innate, making genderless marriage a
"civil right." Yet studies of identical twin indicate that if one twin is
homosexual, in the majority of cases the other is not. There is no "gay
gene." The Maryland Court of Appeals case, Deane vs. Conaway over same-sex
marriage, concluded that homosexuality is not innate.
There are over 250
ex-gay groups (ExodusInternational.org). Peter Tatchell, an Australian-born
British homosexual activist states "If heterosexuality and homosexuality
are, indeed, genetically predetermined...how do we explain bisexuality or
people who, suddenly in midlife, switch from heterosexuality to
homosexuality(or vice versa)? We can't."
Same-sex marriage,
by definition, throws either Dad (or Mom) overboard. Americans intuitively
know that. For example, great public outcry ensued after an attempt to
change Mother and Father on passports to 'Parent One' and 'Parent Two' and
the action was stopped. After Maine’s legislature voted for same-sex
marriage in 2009, Maine voters
repealed the law. Subsequently, two dozen state legislators who voted for it
were defeated in 2010.
Maryland
legislators should show compassion for children, work to keep Mom and Dad in
the family and vote "NO" to same-sex marriage – or risk the fate of Maine
legislators.
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