January 17,
2007
Column #1,325
Advance for January 20, 2007
(second of a two-part series)
Reforming No Fault Divorce
by Michael J. McManus
"For what experts say is probably the first time, more American women are living
without a husband than with one," reported The New York Times this week on page
1.
"In 2005, 51 percent of women said they were living without a spouse, up from 35
percent in 1950 and 49 percent in 2000."
These numbers are somewhat misleading. Oddly, Census data includes all females
over the age of 15. If only adults over 18 are counted, 52% of women are
married.
However, the increase of women without husbands is indisputable. Why?
It's not due to an increase of widows, who were 11.8 percent of women in 1950
but only 9.4 percent in 2005.
Divorce is the major reason fewer have husbands. Only 2.4% of women were
divorced in 1950 compared to 11.8% in 2005 - a five-fold increase. Furthermore,
most divorces are filed by women. In fact, just since 1970 there have been 38
million divorces.
Secondly, there has been an alarming increase of never-married people. In 1970
there were 21 million never-married men and women aged 18 or older. By 2005,
the number was 52 million. That is a 148 percent hike, more than triple the
growth of population. Of those aged 30-44, the percentage of never-married men
and women has also tripled since 1970.
What is not widely recognized is that these trends feed upon each other. The
tripling of divorces makes young people fearful of marriage, particularly the 35
million since 1970 who saw their parents divorce. That experience fueled the
number of cohabiting couples10-fold from 523,000 in 1970 to 5.2 million in
2005.
In choosing a "trial marriage" they have unwittingly chosen a "trial divorce."
Eight of ten will either break up before the wedding or after. The divorce rate
for those who live together first is 50 percent higher than couples who remain
apart until the wedding.
Therefore, it is crucial for state legislatures to strangle the beast which
needlessly kills millions of marriages: No Fault Divorce. It should be called
Unilateral Divorce because it allows one spouse to walk away from a sacred vow
to remain together "till death do us part."
"Unilateral divorce changed the rules of marriage and how people expect to
behave in a marriage and whether to stay in one," says John Crouch, President of
Americans for Divorce Reform.
"Under Unilateral Divorce, you don't have freedom of contract. Without that
ability to have a binding contract, it doesn't make sense to invest yourself in
an institution that can be turned inside out on you," said Crouch, based on his
experience as a divorce lawyer. "You have to be prepared for divorce. It can
happen to anybody. Children cannot rely on marriage."
If a couple marries and divorces after a year or two before there are children,
that is sad but not tragic. What's tragic is a divorce with children whose
innocent lives will be scarred. They are three times as likely to be expelled
from school, or give birth out-of-wedlock as those from intact homes and are 12
times as apt to be jailed.
Therefore the Family Foundation of Virginia is pressing for a bill that would
prohibit Unilateral Divorce by couples with children, unless fault is proven
such as abuse or adultery. Otherwise divorce would only be granted by the Mutual
Consent of husband and wife.
As president of Marriage Savers, I applaud this leadership and predict that
within two years of passage, the divorce rate of Virginia would plunge by
one-third. Mutual Consent would also result in fairer divorces with an
agreement, for example, that neither could move out of state.
The Family Research Institute of Wisconsin and the Michigan Family Forum will
also pursue Mutual Consent Divorce in their legislatures to replace No Fault.
Each helped lead a successful battle to amend their state constitutions limiting
marriage to a man and a woman.
"It makes sense to come back quickly with Mutual Consent to strengthen marriage
and protect children from divorce," stated Brad Snavely of the Michigan Family
Forum.
"We plan to have the voice of adult children of divorce pushing this. The
babies of the Divorce Revolution can say how they have been harmed. Who can deny
what they have to say?"
Virginia, Wisconsin and Michigan had a total of 82,000 divorces in 2004. If each
passes Mutual Consent Divorce in 2007, I predict they will have 27,000 fewer
divorces in 2009.
That's worth the battle.
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