June 4, 2015
Column #1,762
An Agenda for the Encore Generation
By Mike McManus
Each
day tens of thousands of Baby Boomers enter their 60s and 70s. The Wall Street
Journal published a thoughtful story: “Scientists are pushing to extend our
lives. But are we ready to fill all those added days?” Good question. What might
be done to help enrich our lives and not just add days to them? Men turning 65
today can look forward to an average of 17.7 more years, and women, 20.3 years.
My wife and I married in 1965, when life expectancies were 5 years shorter.
However, very little thought has gone into how these additional years might be
fruitfully used. Marc Freedman, who wrote the WSJ article suggests we should
come up with a new name for this new chapter of life. I propose it be called the
Encore Generation, to focus our attention on how we use our remaining years and
talents in a special way to serve others.
For years we’ve labored to raise our kids and build careers. Now what? Half of
us would like to continue working, at least part time. But this may be a time
for new careers. Perhaps it is time for a sabbatical, a long trip away from
responsibilities to think about next steps.
Rabbi Laura Geller of Temple Emanuel of Beverly Hills has been particularly
creative in helping her members consider this issue. She says the stages of a
life are measured differently now. “For my parents the stages were childhood,
adolescence, midlife (when the task was building of career and family), and then
old age. Now there is a new stage between midlife and old age.” Social scientist
Steven Cohen observed, “Boomers (born between 1946 and 1964) are the first
generation in human history…to reasonably anticipate living…into their 80s and
90s, if not beyond.”
The biblical text most relevant to her is the story in Genesis of God calling
Abram and Sarai, “Leave your country, your people…and go to the land I will show
you. I will make you into a great nation and I will bless you (Gen 12:1-2).” At
the time Abram was aged 75, yet he picked up and left.
Rabbi Geller says, “He is not calling young people at the beginning of their
careers, but they were called to an adventure and make their lives a blessing.
The story of the Jewish people begins at that point. Their names were changed to
Abraham and Sarah, to reflect God’s name. In Hebrew, H is God’s name.” (Abraham
was 100, and Sarah 90 when they gave birth to Isaac.)
For the last several years 200 Temple Emanuel men and women aged 50-75 have held
a series of house meetings and answered a series of questions:
“Is this a new stage of your life? What keeps you up at night? What are your
concerns? What are you excited about? What gets you up in the morning? Was there
a time when the Jewish community was there for you?
She says these have been very “moving conversations.” For the first time ever,
men spoke about fears of growing older. However, four themes came through:
1. Spirituality. “What are the ritual moments of our lives when divinity is
present?” Some talk of a “sacred conversation” they have with their children
about end of life decisions. The Temple is considering a “Bar Mitzvah” like
ceremony for those moving beyond midlife, but far from the end of life, with a
focus on “leaving a legacy and how they might engage in “tikkun olam,” healing
the world.
2. Community asks “What do I need now to have a supportive community?” Some are
exploring “co-housing” in which several families sell their houses, and move
together into an apartment with community dinners and laundry rooms.
3. Giving back asks each person how they can use their talents and experience to
serve others.
4. Concern about ourselves and people you love. Many are taking a course called
“Wise Aging” which asks “What do you have to do now to become the 85-year-old
you want to be: meditation, prayer, character refinement?
If any reader knows of a Christian church helping the Encore Generation so
creatively, please write me at Mike@marriagesavers.org.
Peggy Mader, a Christian friend, has used her Encore years as a hospice
volunteer. She quotes a book, “Midwives of the Soul” which describes birth and
death as “similar in many ways, a process of going from this life into the
next.” She had found that in holding the hands of dying people, “I feel I am in
the presence of God.”
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